I've always been the outsider looking in - and now I'm grateful for it.

As often is the case with us ADHDers, what once made me feel like an outsider turned into a passion, then into a skill, as I observed the friction between my brain and reality.

This all led me to build my own, often irregular, support strategies to allow myself a smoother and lighter experience of life.

What really puts the ‘dope’ in dopamine for me, though, is clueing into what these irregular strategies look like for every unique person I work with.

Take this example:

2 ADHDers came to me for coaching
both struggling with prioritization
both in the kind of work where everything feels urgent

In each case, we went digging and ultimately discovered radically different reasons for their inner pressure:

1 >>> One was driven by people-pleasing and their struggles to say ‘no’ to requests.

2 >>> The other’s urgency stemmed from their fear that ‘if I don't solve this now, I'll forget until it’s too late.

Each of them needed completely different support to release the pressure they were holding inside.

While they were both looking to engage with their work with more confidence…

… there was nothing they had in common except the diagnosis.

This unique and challenging process of digging, revealing and creating support systems around each individual scenario is what keeps me doing this work with boundless joy.

Because coaching shouldn’t be about working harder on ourselves (we’re hard enough on ourselves as it is); it should be about creating supportive strategies that work for us.